Love would be the most interesting “thing” on earth where the real meaning of love is still indescribable. There is no absolute or precise meaning of what love really is. Different person will have different interpretation of what love is and they have different way of finding it, keeping it and expand it. People normally said that love come when it is time and it can’t be chased away no matter what. But the question arise here how only you know it is time and you didn’t made a mistake? It really depends on fate and just sit there wait for the time to come? There are people who are passive believing that love will come by itself. Well I believe love is in one self’s hand, at least it is more secure coz I believe efforts are needed in archiving things. There is possibility that free lunch will be delivered straight to you but if you are not the lucky one then until when you will keep on hiding there being passive. You dare to have a feeling towards someone then why not have the guts to tell the person? Start taking action or else wait for regret.
Same thing, different interpretation leads to different way of keeping the love you had. Basically there are few ways and most common I noticed is both parties keep on giving or shall I say sacrificing for each other just to hope that their relationship will last longer. But this attitude will only happened when the couple is brand new and the sacrificing things last for some time and when either one party had enough of it, there goes their relationship, back to zero. Another type would be the protective type which a single or both parties has a wall in front of them worrying that they will get hurt from each other. Another thought would be that if they give too much, the other party would not appreciate it and they think that things that are too easy to get will not be important to them. This eventually leads to less sacrifice and misunderstanding would happened that the protective party does not have enough confident in the relationship or it is not worth it for the non-protective party to keep on sacrifice for the other party.
Well actually there’s nothing such as sacrifice in relationship especially love. All you need is acceptance. If you accept the way your partner is from beginning there wouldn’t be sacrificing. Accept the way he or she is not changing it into a person you wish to have. If so then why you choose he or she to be your life partner as you can choose anyone coz you will only change it to the person you like. You only like him or her acts the way you want then anyone who can do so also can be your life partner isn’t it? Bear in mind you love your partner because he or she attracts you the way he or she is at your first sight. Total respect and acceptance in the relationship will ensure you that the relationship will last as long as it can and your love towards each other will automatically grow deeper and deeper. I know it is hard in practicing it but try it as it will not bring you any harm.
My way of thinking is there is nothing such as love eternity or love at first sight. You don’t even know who he or she really is and you admit that you are in love at first sight. You are only attracted to his or her appearance and attraction has big difference with love. Think deeply and see. For me loves grows from likes and likes come from attraction. First you were attracted to each other then both of you feel comfortable and likes to hang out together. As time passed by likes grows to love where both understand and knows each other well. Love will only last for some time and it will go into the next stage where it is called “used to”. This stage is both parties are used to each other existence and life would be miserable if either one if missing. Couple that last till old and till end of their life is because of they are used to each other being with each other all the while. Back to the word acceptance, you can only get used to each other is because you already accept the way he or she is and the role he or she plays in your life.
In the other hand, if you don’t accept you will feel that he or she is not in love with you anymore because you will have a feeling where he or she doesn’t care you anymore. Actually the problem is in you because you expected him or her to do more than what he or she is doing now. Well for sure he or she will treat you the same way he or she is; just that you thought that there is no improvement from the other party means that you are not important in his or her heart. Think the other way round, from the first day he or she said “I Love You” to you and the treatment from that day till now is same doesn’t mean that he or she still loves you the way he or she is? Remember to appreciate what you have and not to ask for more because you will only happy if you know what you really have now.
Same thing, different interpretation leads to different way of keeping the love you had. Basically there are few ways and most common I noticed is both parties keep on giving or shall I say sacrificing for each other just to hope that their relationship will last longer. But this attitude will only happened when the couple is brand new and the sacrificing things last for some time and when either one party had enough of it, there goes their relationship, back to zero. Another type would be the protective type which a single or both parties has a wall in front of them worrying that they will get hurt from each other. Another thought would be that if they give too much, the other party would not appreciate it and they think that things that are too easy to get will not be important to them. This eventually leads to less sacrifice and misunderstanding would happened that the protective party does not have enough confident in the relationship or it is not worth it for the non-protective party to keep on sacrifice for the other party.
Well actually there’s nothing such as sacrifice in relationship especially love. All you need is acceptance. If you accept the way your partner is from beginning there wouldn’t be sacrificing. Accept the way he or she is not changing it into a person you wish to have. If so then why you choose he or she to be your life partner as you can choose anyone coz you will only change it to the person you like. You only like him or her acts the way you want then anyone who can do so also can be your life partner isn’t it? Bear in mind you love your partner because he or she attracts you the way he or she is at your first sight. Total respect and acceptance in the relationship will ensure you that the relationship will last as long as it can and your love towards each other will automatically grow deeper and deeper. I know it is hard in practicing it but try it as it will not bring you any harm.
My way of thinking is there is nothing such as love eternity or love at first sight. You don’t even know who he or she really is and you admit that you are in love at first sight. You are only attracted to his or her appearance and attraction has big difference with love. Think deeply and see. For me loves grows from likes and likes come from attraction. First you were attracted to each other then both of you feel comfortable and likes to hang out together. As time passed by likes grows to love where both understand and knows each other well. Love will only last for some time and it will go into the next stage where it is called “used to”. This stage is both parties are used to each other existence and life would be miserable if either one if missing. Couple that last till old and till end of their life is because of they are used to each other being with each other all the while. Back to the word acceptance, you can only get used to each other is because you already accept the way he or she is and the role he or she plays in your life.
In the other hand, if you don’t accept you will feel that he or she is not in love with you anymore because you will have a feeling where he or she doesn’t care you anymore. Actually the problem is in you because you expected him or her to do more than what he or she is doing now. Well for sure he or she will treat you the same way he or she is; just that you thought that there is no improvement from the other party means that you are not important in his or her heart. Think the other way round, from the first day he or she said “I Love You” to you and the treatment from that day till now is same doesn’t mean that he or she still loves you the way he or she is? Remember to appreciate what you have and not to ask for more because you will only happy if you know what you really have now.
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