If I could

If I could, I would lie with you and watch you sleep,
And very gently touch your face
Willing myself not to forget; That I might picture you
with heart -wrenching clarity
long after you have gone.
I would inhale the scent of you. Of your hair,
the texture of your skin, and kiss
that old scar above your eye.
Catching my breath as I trace the shape
of those eyes.
Their colour so deep I could drown.
Hidden now, and perfect, under heavy lashes
flickering slightly as you dream. -
Tell me, - what do you see in me?
My fingers exploring on, over cheekbones
wide and high; And back once more
to that wonderful hair.
On, over the bridge of your nose,
down it's length, over the tip to your lips,
- such erotic lips;
Half parted now, your warm regular breath
caressing my fingertips.
I would bend slowly, and hardly touching
run my tongue along each lip
just entering your mouth to savour
the wetness and the warmth of you.
Then I would stroke your chin -
rough at this hour, in the midst of the night,
tracing the squareness of your jaw,
the small cleft there,
the softness of the flesh underneath.
All of my fingertips now
lightly, slightly massaging.
Losing themselves in the nape of your neck,
in a tangle of hair,
gliding, riding over your collar bones
coming to rest in a hollow.
..And I would bend deeper
and fill it with kisses.
If I could.

Words

Do words elude you?
Flee your mind?
Do seasons mix?
Until you find,
No one listens?
No one cares?
People look at you,
with hateful stares?
Life is a circle,
'Round we go!
Chase the words
of seed to sow.

My Lover

The centre of his pleasure
that's where I long to be,
For whatever pleases my lover
will surely pleasure me.

Gazing into my lovers eyes,
they burn with passions fire,
I long to be the star of his dreams,
the object of his desire.

As I kiss and lick my lovers flesh
and partake of sensual delight,
To feel his wrath upon my lips,
How could this not be right?

To be the centre of his pleasure
that's all I want to be,
for if it pleases my lover,
then it surely pleases me.

He Had it All Along

Tortured heart, I was left alone,
Alone to be happy to be me, to be grown
No expectations of anyone any more
With hate in my heart, rot straight to the core
Through this, how he knew better than I
How love conquers hate, on a chance did he try
How carefully it was built, with all my effort
If one tried to climb , would quickly leave hurt
Sweetly and gently, a first shy hello
Built strong over minutes and hours from go
Try not to let it, please make it stop
The feeling inside starts out cool ends up hot
It crumbled so quickly as if made of sand
Sifted right through the fingers on his hand
As the sand ran through, whats there in his Palm?
My heart, my soul, was there all along

Breaking Into Pieces

Falling apart
Broken in two...
Or maybe a million,
Because of you

Torn apart
Tears falling like rain
Hurting so much
Never again!

I gave you my love
I gave you my heart,
And what did you do?
You tore it apart.

Saying your sorry
You walked away,
Leaving me crying
And hurting this way.

And now there is silence
No more you....
And my heart breaks
At my loss of you.

I have fallen apart
My heart in tatters
Broken into pieces
Not that it matters.

You withdrew away
You left me to cry
And I will never know
The reason why.

I loved you so much
You will never know,
How I broke into pieces
And watched you go…

I Do.

Do you ever wonder
if I'm still in love with you?
When nothing in your world is right,
is it me your heart turns to?

Have you ever searched for me
among the stars at night?
Did you wish upon the brightest one,
a wish to hold me tight?

Have you ever called my name,
so certain that I could hear?
When gentle breezes caress you,
can you feel that I am near?

Do you ever wonder,
if I feel the same way too?
Rest your wearied mind, my love,
the answer is, I DO

By The Sea Shore

Did you feel the sun's fingers caress your face,
As you strolled the ocean froth covered sea shore?
It was merely the warmth of a slow forming smile,
As I awoke from a summer dream about you.

Did you feel the ocean breeze gently brush your hair,
As you bent down to pick up the sea shells at your feet?
It was merely a single sigh escaping from my lips,
As I drank in the memory of a fleeting moment.

Did you hear the frantic cries of lonesome sea gulls,
As you searched the endless horizon for signs of life?
It was merley the sound of my desolate voice,
As I slowly whispered your name to myself.

Did you taste the sting of the ocean's salty spray,
As you danced among the white-capped waves?
It was merely the tears of my wounded heart,
As I sensed the sea of distance separating us.

Did you ever think?

Did you ever think?

Did you ever think that you would get this far?

Did you ever think that you would be standing where you are?

Did you ever think she would be looking straight at you?

And in her eyes you'd see all the wholesome things in you?

Did you ever think that you could feel this way?

About someone with whom you want to spend every single day

Did you ever think you would have the strength to cry?

That you would look at such an angel and tears would come to your eyes?

Did you ever think that you could feel the way you do?

About someone, you know whose feelings are so true.

Did you ever think?

For JASON SIA...

When we first met,
I dint really like you,
I thought you were fierce,
But when i got to know you better,
all of a sudden things changed,
We became friends,
and its almost stayed that way,
But we sometimes fought,
we sometimes argued,
I really hated that.
Days went on,
our friendship got back together.
Hopefully now on we wont argue or fight,
Stay friends ya...

FRIENDS FOREVER
NO MATTER WHAT!!!

A very very Sweet Song...From Da Mouth

永远在身边

Baby boy
永遠永遠手牽手 一步兩步一起走
永遠永遠要記得 我們要一起生活
不管晴天的時候 不管下雨的時候
不放開手到永久 我們要一起生活

眼淚她為你流過 也為自己掉過
對於你們的愛 她總是抱著堅強的笑容
錯過那些時間 謝謝她的守候
是時候緊緊牽她的手 帶她到你的城堡裡

最近還好嗎 想念的心開不了口
枯想著妳有沒有好好過 擔心著妳每天生活
你好嗎最近如何 照顧身體工作加油
我一個人也會勇敢好好過 不讓你擔心多一秒

想念著 每天每秒我們故事 每天每秒說好的事
兩個人一起散步 是最浪漫的事
你是我的天使 給我力量能夠堅持

那些關心問候 翅膀一樣的雙手 是我最幸福的所有
心裡面有你建的角落 脆弱時我能夠躲一躲
妳愛我像翅膀一樣溫柔的手 我要抱著妳不要再錯過
你的愛是最藍那片天空 cuz baby girl I'm coming back home

REPEAT *

幸福少了妳在身邊不會完整
人潮中朝你走來那張可愛微笑的臉孔
這份愛 不是悸動 守護一輩子的感動
這段路踏著幸福的每一步一起牽著手

心疼妳會睡不好 總是縮在床的一角
我要回來給妳依靠 哄妳看妳笑著睡著
照片裡你的微笑 我們甜蜜得打鬧
好希望微風把思念 代替我親吻你嘴角

想念著 每天每秒我們故事 每天每秒說好的事
約定好去看的風景 愛譜成了詩
你就是我的天使 給我力量能夠堅持

陽光燦爛午後 我又在街上走 你的影子不再寂寞
想到你的身邊到不了 像個路人般看熱鬧
經過那個屬於我們的轉角 走過兩個人曾經逛的街
那些店還有熟悉的畫面 oh baby girl I'm coming back home

REPEAT *

沒有辦法想像 那畫面
一個孤獨的背影走在 小公園
一顆心 需要暖 一雙手 需要牽
故事要有美好結局 需要兩雙手來寫

永遠 不是只出現在童話裡的夢
在身邊 眼淚加了蜜糖甜
這句點 要完美畫在無名指上
承諾的開始 戀人們 要一起珍藏

The Science of Attraction

Have you ever been flooded with feelings at the mere sight of a certain someone or inexplicably drawn to a stranger? It’s called chemistry. The term was coined ages ago, but recently, researchers are giving it a more scientific explanation. Below, you will find out what professionals say it takes for two people to have "chemistry" and we will tell you how to harness nature's matchmaker to help you in your quest for love.

To begin with, chemistry is activated by first impression attraction. That attraction is shaped by social influence, individual perspective, and human nature. Each society has a set of accepted guidelines for what is attractive. Beyond that, each sub-culture of people, grouped by common criteria like location, age, class, race, religion, workforce, etc. has its own set of “norms” as well. Your family and the media are two of the most impactful influences on your perspective. You begin to judge yourself and others through lenses created by these societal forces, however accurate or distorted they may be. Most of the world’s cultures have norms quite different than those in America. A good example is the Miss United Kingdom pageant compared to similar contests in the US. The UK contestants’ bodies were more like the average American twenty-something women than the rail-thin silhouettes you are likely to see in American pageants. What we call a little extra baggage, they see as fit and beautiful. The farther away we get from Western society, the more evident this difference is.

To further explain initial attraction as major factor in chemistry, we must also look at the way you see yourself. Your view of your own sex appeal is a major contributor to who you are attracted to. Research proves that people are romantically attracted to those they consider to be on their same level of physical attractiveness. If your internal measuring tape puts your prospective love interest on an equal playing field with yourself, it gives your brain the go ahead to pursue intimacy. If someone is struggling with their self-image, the internal conflict will skew their judgement of who is or isn't on par.

Physical attractiveness is, in part, determined by the human urge to breed. Women are intuitively attracted to men with physical features that suggest a level of testosterone ideal for procreation. They include a prominent jaw, chin, and brow, high forehead, broad shoulders, and a V-shaped torso. Both men and women are instinctively attracted to healthy looking skin because it implies good overall health.

The lack of testosterone in women develops full lips, big eyes, and symmetrical body types, all positive signs of fertility. Men are subconsciously attracted to substantial waist-to-hip ratios, or “Beyonce booties,” because the shape indicates a healthy reproductive system. The hips-to-waist rule crosses every cultural boundary, but make no mistake, it is the ratio rather than the size that attracts men.

The hormones that determine your body type are not the only signals your body is conveying to prospective lovers. Our bodies release “scents” that are detected subconsciously by other people. You might have heard these referred to as pheromones, or pheromone-like substances, because they work just like the pheromones that have been proven to play a large role in animals’ mate selection. These unique DNA “scents” tell the details of one’s MHC, or Major Histocompatibility Complex, the gene family that tells all about your immune system. The odorless scents are believed to be breathed in by others, received by the vomeronasal gland, or VNO, and sent to the sexual part of the brain. Erik Hozzle, founder of Scientificmatch.com called them “personal odorless fingerprints.”

Hormones are at the root of the receiving person’s interpretation as well. Their response varies by gender, but is also individual. Depending on the other person’s unique chemical make-up, they will be subconsciously attracted to a person sexually, non-sexually, or not at all. We are attracted to people with differing immune systems and DNA than our own. Experts say this is nature’s way of discouraging incest. During a woman’s especially fertile times, she is the most sensitive to male pheromones, especially those men with differing immune systems. During pregnancy, she is more attracted to people whose chemical make-ups are most like her own (other women and family members) than her mate. Some say that hormone birth controls have the potential to alter who you are attracted to as well, so watch out! If this is true, your guy may not look so great once you get on the pill!

Scienficmatch.com is the next step in technology-based matchmaking. They identify appropriate mates for you by collating DNA samples. They claim that mate selection through chemical comparison is likely to yield more satisfying sex lives, including higher rates of female orgasms, lower rates of infidelity, and increased fertility! Founder Erik Hozzle assured me that his service operates under the strictest confidentiality. The Today Show recently featured a story on Hozzle and his company. The reporter had her DNA tested and Scientificmatch.com didn’t come up with any matches. I think that Scientificmatch.com taking the high road when they could have easily been dishonest and matched her to someone for good PR speaks wonders about the company’s ethics.

Even though the company showed honest business practice, they may be missing the full picture. The Today Show furthered their investigation by having three couples who were at various stages in their relationships (all claiming to be incredibly happy) take the DNA test to assess their compatibility. One couple tested 100% compatible, while the other two were 67%. The female in the couple who tested to be the most likely to succeed said, “I think you just saved our relationship.” That just goes to prove that the scientific “chemistry” is only one component of the chemistry equation.

There are many pieces to the puzzle that seem unexplainable, like love at first sight or that magnetism that erupts between strangers. Bob Morgan, former psychology professor and current director of ADAPT, a counseling center specializing in addiction recovery, says that the initial feelings of lust or chemistry are ultimately about propagation of the species, so it makes sense that they are fleeting. They serve their biological purpose and dissipate when they are no longer needed. In order for a relationship to be both fulfilling and stable, the lust must be replaced with love. Morgan says that being in a relationship is the “normal state of being” for humans and that it is our natural drive to seek that connection; attraction exists as a part of our innate need to love and be loved. He quotes Father Joseph Martin saying, “People are most human in the context of a relationship.”

A better indicator of relationship longevity according to Morgan is emotional maturity. How well someone knows and accepts themselves is a direct gauge for what they will bring into a relationship. William Menninger, MD, co-founder of The Menninger Clinic, wrote these criteria for emotional maturity:

• The ability to deal constructively with reality
• The capacity to adapt to change
• A relative freedom from symptoms that are produced by tensions and anxieties
• The capacity to find more satisfaction in giving than receiving
• The capacity to relate to other people in a consistent manner with mutual satisfaction and helpfulness
• The capacity to sublimate, or to direct one’s instinctive hostile energy into creative, constructive outlets
• The capacity to love

Morgan’s standpoint is that each person’s situation is distinctive according to where they are on their life journey, how much wisdom they have acquired, and how emotionally mature they are. These things change how much each aspect of attraction plays a part in a person's mate selection and relationship dynamics.

Another point of view comes from Virginia Satir, world renowned and honored therapist, teacher, author, and creator of counseling methods used around the globe. She says that people “marry to get,” simple as that. When opposites attract, people detect attributes that they admire, ones lacking in themselves, and subconsciously envision their collective traits as completion of their best selves. According to Satir’s perspective, mate selection has little to do with compatibility and much to do with the psychological process of attraction.

Satir explains why opposites attract, but what keeps them together? When the fireworks fade, they have no common interests to fall back on. They must cling to what is deep inside to be successful. Bob Morgan says he and his wife are this way. They share core values, but are quite contradictory to each other in every other way. Given a pair of choices, the two will choose opposites nearly every time without knowing what the other chose. Having different interests and passions in life could easily be a growing wedge between them, but their love supersedes their differences. Bob’s favorite definition of love reads, “When your needs are as important as my needs.” This kind of love is more powerful than lust, attraction, common interests, animal instincts, social influence, and even self-esteem. When you are capable of this kind of love, you may find it with someone like you or unlike you in biology or psychology. There are plenty of rules in chemistry, but there are no rules when it comes to love.

Strive to be an emotionally mature person, ready to give and accept love. Challenge yourself to break out of your relationship paradigm. Get to know yourself first, and when you're secure with who you are and what you see in the mirror, you will be able to accept a partner in the same way. A healthy lifestyle where you are happy with yourself affects your psyche and hormones, making you attractive to others. The more aware we are of that, the easier it should be to allow the “magic” to happen naturally.

Romantic Text Messages

Showing your feelings has never been easier since the advent of the text message. Anytime or anywhere you can instantly shoot off a message across the globe to the one you love, letting them know they are on your mind. Unfortunately, it isn't always easy coming up with witty romantic words of love. So, to help ease your burden, we've come up with a whole host of romantic messages that will set your love's heart atwitter with delight. If you have a great message that isn't included here, let us know and we'll include it in our list! Happy Texting!

• Let these words not only touch your eyes, let them travel through your soul, and let them rest in your heart as you rest in mine…I love you.
  
• You're still the one…
  
• Words alone will never be able to express the depth of my love for you.
  
• In case you didn't know, I'll be loving you always and forever!!
  
• Just when I thought it couldn't get better, you prove me wrong! I love you!
  
• Falling in love with you was the easiest thing I've done in my life.
  
• Hand in hand and heart to heart my love for you shall never part.
  
• Even though we are apart, my love you will never part.
  
• I'll love the sun for days, the moon for nights, and YOU for forever.
  
• Loving you makes my heart explode with happiness.
  
• Rains fall, winds blow, the sun shines... it all comes naturally, just like loving you.
  
• Simply said... I love you...
  
• Being with you is like having every single one of my wishes come true.
  
• Loving you has been the best thing to ever happen to me!
  
• Just had to let you know... you're the best! I love you!
  
• There is no long distance about love; it always finds a way to bring hearts together, no matter how many miles are between them.
  
• You are the sun in my day, the wind in my sky, the waves in my ocean, and the beat in my heart.
  
• I wish I was there to hold you tight instead of just send this loving, "Good Night."
  
• Thank you for being the one who calms all my inner fears.
  
• Your love is all I'll ever need.

Getting What You Want In Bed

Don’t let another night go by wishing and hoping that your man would get it right. Pleasing a woman takes knowledge and understanding. More than likely, your man would give anything to rock your world, he just doesn’t know how. Teach him how to please you by following our super sexy lesson plans. No need to share your plan with him; it will be our little secret.

You are about to embark on a serious training project and like any endeavor of this sort, it requires a good plan. One thing to keep in mind throughout the process is that you are training a man, and it calls for a bit more finesse than training say, a child, a dog, or an athlete. The best way to train him is to never let on that there is anything wrong. Instead, he should believe that you are expanding the adventure of your already wonderful lovemaking. In addition, secret planning will enable you to implement one of the most useful pieces of man-training: turning the neck. You have heard the metaphor that the man may be the head of the house, but it is the woman, as the neck, that turns the head in the direction she desires.

Smart women have figured out that if you allow a man to think that he came up with his ideas all on his own, he will be much more committed to following through with them. One of the key differences between a man and a woman is his need to be appreciated as a mastermind, a fixer, and a great lover. He actually needs that confirmation to retain his pride as a man. Women don’t need the ego confirmation like a man does. They need to be cherished, adored and respected. Play your womanly hand in this game of love and greatly increase both your chances of winning.

To begin training your husband, you will need to choose which lesson you would like to start with. You don’t want to overwhelm him with too much at the same time; it is too easy to slip up and make him feel bad about himself. You might choose to work on foreplay first, or it might be what he does or doesn’t do during sex, or maybe it is the lack of adventure in your sex life that you choose to tackle first. The next step is to choose your angle. Here are a few options:

• Take a love quiz like this one or this one together. It will open up conversation about what things you always wanted to try, what things really turn you on, etc.
  
  
• Open up a conversation by asking him about his desires first. Ask him what he really likes, what he would like more of, and what he’s always wanted to try. The conversation should then turn to what you really like, what you want more of, and what you’ve always wanted to try.
  
  
• Go out to dinner and have a few drinks. Then, as a “spur of the moment idea,” share your sensual wish lists with each other, writing down things you both hope to experience on cocktail napkins so you can look at them again the next day.
  
  
• Tell him what you want him to do in the heat of the moment. The closer a man is to climax, the more appeasing he is, so take the opportunity when he is hot and ready to tell him something you wish he would do. Say it in a super sexy way and refrain from criticizing him in any way. Say something like, “Oh baby, you feel so good… I want you to _____.”
  
  
• Mention something you’d like to experience when the two of you are doing something totally non-sexual, taking him by surprise with your non-shalant attitude. Imagine driving home from the grocery store and mentioning out of the blue that you have been imagining what it would be like to do it on the kitchen counter or wondering what it would be like to buy a sex toy together. That leaves it in his court, and odds are that you’ll have that fantasy come true before the week is out.
  
  
• Introduce your desires and fantasies by construing a little fib, “A friend told me a story today at work. You wouldn’t believe what she tried with her husband last night…” or “I stumbled on an article about something interesting today and it made me so hot, imaging us doing it. It was all about ____” or “I had the hottest dream about you last night. You were _____.”
  
  
• Set up a role play rendezvous where you are in charge. You could be a sex instructor or dominatrix. That way, you can tell him what you want him to do and he will love the idea of being “schooled” by a hot sex master!
  
  
• Challenge him. Bring out his competitive nature with a sexy challenge. One idea, if you are sick of the hum drum five minute lay before bed, is to tell him that you will have sex with him anywhere, anytime, as long as it is not on your bed. Another idea is to make a game with him, a challenge of who can take the reigns and create the hottest sexual encounter. You each make a short list of things you want and swap lists. Include four or so things that you like that he does already and four more things that you want him to do. Don’t tell him to do the same, though. Let him put whatever he wants on his list, so he doesn’t feel like this is a project to make him better in bed, but just a fun encounter to have. Roll dice to see who gets the first night and have a blast playing out your challenge and see whose rendezvous works out best!
  

Whichever angle you choose, just make sure that you encourage him to lead you just as much as you lead him. He needs to feel like an equal participant in pleasing you, and after he’s trained, you won’t have to try! In addition, don’t treat every opportunity as a training exercise. Let the lessons go once in a while. The goal is to make him a better lover without damaging his self-esteem. After all, it is a well-known fact that confidence is the most important element to attraction. If you knock down his self-esteem, you won’t ever turn him into the perfect love machine.

You don’t always need an angle. Definitely shake things up a bit. Remember that you are choosing one lesson at a time and you should try different approaches often so that he doesn’t begin to feel like his manhood is being challenged. Your training will go a whole lot smoother if he just sees you as being extra adventurous, not out to change his ways. Some secrets are worth keeping…

Find sexy ways to let him know what you want from him.

• Talk to him sweetly, using your bedroom voice. Whisper what you want in his ear, but do it kindly. For example, if he is pounding you like a jack rabbit, tell him that you want to “feel him more, slowly.”
  
  
• Give him physical clues to what you would like. For example, if you want him to handle your breasts more, put them right in his face. Men can’t help but grab onto bouncing boobies.
  
  
• If you want him to alter the way he does something, try doing it to him first. It won’t take long for him to get the hint that you are giving him. If that alone doesn’t get him doing what you want, show him how you like it by guiding him. Move his hands or body and tell him, “Like this.” Telling him how you like it while it’s happening instead of criticizing afterword makes it more of an erotic experience than a “schooling.”
  

You need to teach your guy what you like. Encouraging him when he’s doing it right is the most effective training method. It is called positive reinforcement and it is the essence of man-training. During love-making is the perfect opportunity for it because it is the time when he is most receptive. Memorize these tips like the back of your hand and use them every chance you get through the training process and after. A man can never get enough positive reinforcement.

• Let your inhibitions go and your vocals loose. The tiniest inkling to let out a moan or tell him “yes” and you should let it out. Scream if you feel like it, men love it.
  
  
• Don’t over-reward. Make your reaction in direct ratio to the amount of pleasure he is giving you. Most of this will come naturally of course, but it doesn’t hurt to keep it in mind while you are on the mission to train.
  
  
• Tell him that you really like what he’s doing and that you want to try it in a different position, in a different room, slower, faster, or whatever you want. The key part is to reinforce that you like what he is doing already and that you want more.
  
  
• If he really knocks your socks off, let him know by returning the favor. Blow his mind by doing something you know he loves. It may sound a bit impersonal, but a man’s mind works that way sometimes. This sort of reward system, if done properly, buries in his subconscious and he will associate doing what you like with getting what he likes.

The last stage of each lesson should be feedback. Voice a reaction to your lovemaking session, but do it with finesse. Use the tips below to close each chapter of training in such a way that his ego is in tact and you are that much closer to having the best sex of your life.

• It doesn’t have to be a formal discussion. In fact, the more casual your feedback is, the more he receptive he will be. For example, you could tell him, “You know, honey, I loved it when you ____ and I was thinking that next time, we could ____” and gently tell him what it is that you want from him.
  
  
• Be open and willing to talk about your desires with him, but make sure you are inquiring about his desires just as much.
  
  
• Don’t always have suggestions. Give him a lot of encouragement by telling him how hot the sex was, how much you keep thinking about him touching you, etc. Again, don’t pretend to feel that way if you don’t, but there are surely things you could pick out of every experience to praise him for. He needs compliments just as much as you do.
  
  
• Once in a while, it’s ok to give him a little sting. If he is doing something that drives you nuts, you may have to come right out and say it. Just make sure that when you do, he feels very loved and assured before and after. You don’t want to tack a sting onto a lesson already in progress. Let things ride for a while, then break the news, and then give him a while to get over the blast before resuming your lessons.

Be patient with your lover. Take one lesson at a time and give him a chance to master it before moving onto the next one. He wants to be the ultimate lover just as much as you want him to be.

Tell-tale Signs that It’s Love, Love, Love

You’ve got butterflies, good conversation, maybe even great sex, but sometimes it can be difficult to be sure if it’s love. How do you decipher whether the feeling in the pit of your stomach is the nervous quivering of anticipation or yesterday's lunch?



You are best friends. You laugh with them more than anyone else. The feelings of anticipation, passion, and connection are mutual. You remember little things about each other like their favorite foods, the places they want to visit and why, their views on everything from politics to fashion, and what they love about their closest buddies, but is it enough? Take a look at these signs to be sure.



What he’ll do:

• Put you on his “A” list (pay attention -- You'll know if you're not on it)
• Introduce you to his family
• Make plans for the future (near and far)
• Do things outside of his “box” with you
• Share his secrets and his dreams for the future with you
• Worry about impressing your friends
• Come right over when you ask him to
• Try to do things that comfort you or relieve some of your stress (like surprise you with dinner on a night you are working, rub your feet, or ask about your day)
• Appreciate and reciprocate your feelings and your actions like giving you a massage after he gets one from you, doing the dishes after dinner, or sending you a gift

What she’ll do:

• Share her embarrassing moments and fantasies with you
• Little things all throughout the day that let you know she’s thinking about you
• Fantasize about her life with you, getting married, having kids, growing old, traveling the world, etc.
• Tease you
• Hang out with your mother or talk to her on the phone
• Appreciate and reciprocate your feelings and your actions, like offering to pay for dinner, getting tickets to a game or event she knows you’ll love, or cooking for you
• Ask questions about your life -- past, present, and future
• Flirt with you

How you’ll feel:

• Excited, yet relaxed
• Vulnerable, yet strong
• Comfortable enough to be yourself in front of them
• Like you want to include them in everything (but you won't desert your usual crowd to be in a relationship with them)
• You’ll miss them when they’re not around
• You can’t wait to see them, talk to them, play with them, and kiss them
• You’ll find yourself wanting to make plans to have them all to yourself
• You’ll have urges to do romantic things (maybe on the verge of stalker-like things) that you never thought you’d never do

Signs that it’s not love:

• They blow you off or cancel dates
• Talking about commitment makes either of you uneasy or nervous
• Either of you are seeing other people
• Things are moving too quickly for one of you
• You find your partner lacking when compared to other people
• You watch a love scene in a movie or hear a love song and you feel a strong longing or desire for what you don’t have

Tips before you commit:

• Take the time to compare who you have with who you know deep down that you desire and deserve. Likewise, compare the relationship you have with the one you know you really want.
  
• Pay attention to how they treat their friends, family, business associates, and strangers. This is a good indication of how they will treat you over time and a big insight into their overall character.
  
• Ask yourself how well you know them and how well they know you.

Long Distance Text Messages

Imagine hearing the ding alerting you that you have a text... from him! “I can’t stop thinking about you” is all it says. How great would that feel? Well, guys love romantic messages, too. They want to know that you are thinking of them, that you can’t wait to see them, and that they are the greatest thing on earth. Here is a huge list of sweet text message ideas your guy is sure to love.

-You’re hot
-Let’s kiss and make up
-Missing you…
-Can’t wait to kiss you, baby
-My heart aches for you
-I can’t wait to be in your arms again
-I'm here and you’re there. There doesn’t know how lucky it is.
-As long as I have you, I am always with you
-I can’t stand missing you this much
-I imagine kissing you to fall asleep at night and wake up feeling your arms around me
-1000 miles away and you are still right here in my heart
-You are far from my eyes, but close to my heart
-Being away from you is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do
-I’d walk a thousand miles to touch you tonight
-Our love keeps me warm when your arms aren’t here to hold me
-When I get sad, I just close my eyes and imagine you next to me
-My dream come true would be waking up next to you
-I would wait forever to be with you
-I love your ways
-Be my teddy bear
-I’m all yours
-You are perfect to me
-You take my breath away
-You are the best
-Love me forever
-The best is yet to come
-I love you more every day
-You are so beautiful
-Can’t get you out of my head
-I can’t stop thinking about you
-You are my perfect match
-I love you, my prince
-Even the heavens in all its majesty cannot compare to your wondrous smile
-Rains fall, winds blow, the sun shines… it all comes naturally, just like loving you
-Your smile makes my heart beat faster
-I love you more than anything in the world
-Your laughter fills my world with happiness
-Your smile melts my heart
-You are my everything, my love
-Thank you for loving me
-You are my world
-8 letters, 3 words, 1 meaning. I LOVE YOU
-My love for you will never die
-Everything comes and goes, but my love for you will last forever
-I love you for being you
-Baby, you’re the best thing that ever happened to me
-I hold you in my heart
-My love for your grows every day
-I am madly, deeply in love with you
-I’m so happy to be in love with you
-You are the beat in my heart, you are the fear in my soul, you are the tears I cry, you are my world
-Loving you is like breathing, so effortless and natural, but I’d die without it
-Loving you is all I want to do
-You brighten my days
-I thank God for you
-You hold my heart in your hands
-I would walk through fire for you
-Have I told you lately that I love you?
-I wish I had the words to tell you how I feel
-You are the icing on my cake
-You are my best friend, my love
-You are my sunshine
-I will tell you I love you with my last breath
-Till death do us part, I will always love you
-I’m all yours baby, heart, body and soul
-You are the man of my dreams
-With you, my life is complete
-Making you my husband/life is my greatest achievement
-When I put my arms around you, I know that I am home
-In case you didn’t know, I’ll be loving you always and forever
-Loving you is effortless
-You are one in a million
-Thank you for loving me
-I love the way you love me
-You are always on my mind
-You are everything to me
-My happy place is with you
-The only thing that makes me sad is that I can’t possible tell you how much I love you
-LOVE doesn’t even begin to describe what I feel for you
-You amaze me
-You inspire me

Tool box of the ABC of LOVE

Fill your relationship tool box with the ABCs of Love. From sex to confrontation, romance to personal growth, the alphabet of love covers every tip you will ever need to become his ultimate partner.

The perfect recipe for a successful relationship is the combination of two devoted people and the right relationship tools. This simply-put guide to love may be the only one you will ever need. Post it on your fridge, at your desk, on your bathroom mirror, or anywhere else you are likely to look at it every day. Practice your ABC’s until they become second nature, and you can be sure your love will last.

• Advocate for your lover whenever they need you.


• Be a great team player.


• Collect your thoughts before a confrontation.


• Discuss, don't nag.


• Exercise your ability to turn them on.


• Find new adventures to embark on together.


• Give them reasons why you love them each and every day.


• Hold your partner’s hand while you walk down the street.


• Include each other in decision making.
  
• Judge not the mistakes of the past.


• Kiss slowly, forgive quickly.


• Learn your partner’s love language.


• Make love when he needs to be loved.


• Never put him down in front of others.


• Open your mind to change.


• Plan grand gestures of love for them every so often.


• Quit your bad habits.


• Resist temptation.


• Support to your partner’s dreams and desires.


• Trust your partner more than you trust anyone else.


• Underestimate not the power of praise.


• Value his attributes and strengths.


• Welcome his advice.


• X out selfishness.


• Yield and compromise when your partner needs you to.


• Zeal and creativity is how you please him between the sheets.

Master The Art of the Kiss

"I ran up the door, opened the stairs, said my pajamas and put on my prayers - turned off my bed, tumbled into my light, and all because he kissed me good-night!"

There's nothing quite as remarkable and unforgettable as the exchange of an amazing kiss. The meeting of lips can evoke such a myriad of emotions and communicate your desires in a way that nothing else can quite compare. Even better, when you've got the skills, your lips become a weapon in the war of passion and lust. If you're ready to tease and torture your love to a passionate exchange of heavy lip-locking, consider these tips and ideas.

Kissing 101: Techniques for Lovers

Want to get down to the nitty gritty of kissing like a sex goddess? First, start with the key elements to a great kiss -- pressure, duration, texture, and relaxation.

Pressure
When it comes to pressure, you don't want to smash your lips into each other, but you don't want to feel like you're kissing air either. Find a happy medium that allows you to vary your intensity from gentle to passionate, depending on the mood.

Duration
The duration of the kiss should correlate to the mood you are trying to create. If you want to be a teasing tart, quick and suggestive kisses would be a better choice. If you want to fill them with wanton longing and need, a longer, more passionate exchange would fit the bill.

Texture
The condition of your lips is a very large part of your kissing experience. Make sure to keep them from getting overly chapped by using chapstick or lipstick regularly. Also, if you know you're going to have a heated exchange, save his lips and avoid the extra lipstick.

Relaxation
Relaxation is really only critical when it comes to your first kissing exchanges. You can completely blow a first kiss opportunity by being to rigid and stiff with your lips because of nerves. Just remember to enjoy the exchange. If you end up spending your time worrying about your kiss, it will show and you'll have ruined the moment anyway.

Kissing 102: A Flirty Guide

Now that you've got the basics down, try exploring a little and getting creative with the tips below.

Did you know our brains have special neurons that help us find each other's lips in the dark? Add a sense of mystery and test out the science of kissing with an after-dark or blindfolded exchange.

Scents and tastes are all big turn-ons. Take advantage of this and use a little flavored lip gloss for an unexpected pleasure.

Mix things up and vary your kisses with your partner. Kiss harder, then lighter. Draw away from your partner to make them work for it a little bit and then give in and go all out. Play with your technique for the best results.

Don't just love the lips. Keep in mind there are other erogenous zones near the lips as well. Divert some of your attention to their jawbone, ears and throat.

Get caught up in the moment. Nothing ruins a kiss more than realizing your partner's just not that into it or their mind is on something else. If you're going to make-out, leave everything else behind you and just revel in the sensations.

Kissing 103: An Advanced Primer

If you're ready to take your kissing to the next level, these reader ideas might be just the ticket to spice things up.

A Kiss to Remember
My boyfriend surprises me every now and then with a kiss to remember. First he licks my upper and lower lips and then kisses them softly and passionately. I've been with him for a year and 3 months and it still gets to me every time. Try it and see for yourself!

Breathe You In
This is a passionate way to love your partner. When you are both lying down and kissing, try putting your lips together and gently breathe into one another. He exhales while you inhale and vice versa. This is so romantic. I love to do this with my lover, hopefully you will too.

Brushed Kisses
When you go in to kiss your partner, give them one soft kiss on the lips, then brush your lips across theirs. Go back and forth about three or four times and then give another couple of soft kisses. This always leads to a more passionate kiss. If they try to kiss you while you're brushing against their lips, pull back a bit. My girlfriend does this to me and it drives me nuts, but I LOVE IT!

Cooling Kisses
Start by gently kissing your partner's jaw line and as you kiss, blow on the spot that has just been kissed. It makes it tingle and feels so special!

Icy Hot Kisses
One of you sucks on an ice cube, while the other takes a sip of a hot drink. Then kiss! The chemistry created by this kiss is incredible!

Make His Head Spin
On our fourth date, my wife, instead of just giving me a sweet kiss and nicely stepping out of the car, grabbed me by the tie, pulled me towards her and kissed me hard for three seconds. Then she let go, dashed out of the car and into her house. It's been some years since that happened and my head is still spinning!!

Taking Control
One thing I love to do with my boyfriend is to tease him a bit. First, I run my fingers along his lips, but pull away if he tries to kiss them. Then, I tell him that he isn’t allowed to kiss me back or touch me at all, or else I will stop. I follow that up by slowly kissing every part of his lips and his mouth. While doing this, I run my hands over his body, but pull away if I feel him react at all. He said it drove him crazy! It's fun for both of you: a major turn-on for the receiver and the giver!

Teasing Kiss
My boyfriend and I love to tease each other while kissing. In the middle of a kiss, one of us leans back so the other has to move in to reach their lips. As they reach in, keep moving back a little further each time so they can’t reach. This game builds the anticipation of the kiss. Once they finally reach, it will be the most passionate and deep kiss you will ever have.

Teasing Kisses
My favorite kiss begins like this…. First, I put my head on his shoulder, and start giving him little innocent kisses at the base of his neck. As I get farther up the neck, I open my mouth more, so it he feels the kisses a little more. By the time I reach his ear, he’s going crazy. Then I stop with a little baby kiss,run my tongue up the outside curve of the ear, and then finally gently biting the earlobe. It helps to breathe a lot on his skin while doing this, because the air on the place where you lick tingles.

Upside Down Kiss
The most playful and teasing way to kiss is upside down!... with your partner lying face up, start from the lips kissing them upside down...exploring and teasing kisses in this position can drive your partner crazy and who knows where the kisses will lead!

SPECIAL NIGHT

Let's walk on the beach hand in hand
Under the moonlit sky
Feel the wet sand underneath our feet

Making each moment worthwhile
You whispered "I LOVE YOU" babe
As we hold each other tight
Never let me go my baby
For this is our special night
As the waves crashed against the rocks
You gently touched my cheeks
We shared a special bond
On this beautiful magical place
I never knew what love is
Until you came into my life
You bring me so much happiness
And I'll be honored to be your wife

Lovetime in 5000 letters

I want to spent some time with you just because...

I want to open the door and to find you here in the threshold, not a single word, just your lips on mine, your hands pushing me on the nearest wall, sliding up my skirt, grabing my underwear, stick a finger inside just to convince that I'm real and hot and wet, turning me around and pushing inside fast, that blind, huge need of just being inside me...nailing me fast...

I want to lay down over the bed, my legs opened, to feel your hands and your lips going up on them, fingers and lips mixing on my hot spot, your tongue doing circles on it and in my mind, making me melt, while your hands will go up on my nipples feeling them harder...than, just turning me around and playing with your tongue and lips and teeth back and forth my body until I will feel like I'm levitating from too much pleasure...

I want to look at you while you will put on my high hells shoes asking me to walk around the room, you laying in bed watching...and to come gently, bend my body over you just enough to touch your lips with mine, than to place my legs left and right your head and let me down until my rose and wet petals will touch your lips, leaning on you, my lips touching your hardness in the same way....

I want to bath with you, to stand on the side of the tub, just my boobs to be touched and licked and caressed by you...to have my hands full of foam and to massage your chest, going down between your legs, touching you, taking you in a soft embrace with my hand, going down and moving back, up on you, my fingers to play around and to hear that sound of pleasure when my fingers will be replaced by my mouth...

I want to play softly with you, massaging every inch of your body, kissing that sensitive spots until you will beg me to stop...

I want to lick your toes, one by one, to take them inside and out of my mouth, to let my tongue playing around, going down on foot until your ankle, rounding and licking it

I want to feel you by my side, your body shaping mine, you so close to the entrance, your fingers crossed with mine's playing together on my boobs, around nipples...one push and you're inside, I soak, you move, slowly and deep...I want more deep, fingers together going down on my belly pressing gently until we will feel you moving inside me...

I want to feel you from behind and from front and on top of me and me on top of you and standing up and standing on a chair or just you standing up and me bending on my knees to taste you, to feel that magical seed of life in my mouth...

I want to pet you long and slowly and passionate, to kiss your body inch by inch, to keep you in my hand while you're sleeping...

I want to wake you up early in the morning, kissing your neck and your shoulder and that place on the back of your ear...

I want to drink a coffee and share the same cigarette, me standing on your knee, naked...

I want to welcome you late in the night, sharing a glass of wine and a cigarette, naked...now, I am almost naked and I need a smoke...want to share it with me?....

Understanding The Odd

Males are more common to give the impression of being a heartbreaker whenever a relationship seems to fail or did not work out the way it should have been. The issue of most people having this general thought that all guys are actually the same, which is a jerk, and will automatically prevent themselves or advise their loved ones to be extra cautious when dealing with man especially meeting a new individual or a stranger comes from the single perception where guys are to be blame whenever a broken relationship took place.

It can’t be denied that there are such people that fool around with relationship and they tend to break hearts in exchange for personal satisfaction and desire but do not take things for granted, as nothing is certain in this world and people can’t make assumption that everyone is the same even if one has met such person and lost faith and trust in males. Apart from those immoral and evil, an unsuccessful relationship should not had put all the blames on the male side as the bond was built by two person together at the beginning but when it reaches the end, man will have to bear the blames.

Optimistically speaking, most men will have this mindset which they somehow has already programmed it since they don’t even know when and will automatically practice it when they found their love one. This frame of mind had actually put men in a state where they have no qualification to be blissful; they will only furnish their couple with bliss and pleasure coz somehow they are more tend to be in giving rather than receiving. All men had ever wished for are the contentment and the happiness resulted from the smile from their loves one being appreciated and cherished by them.

Men are unique in their own way seeing that they will actually give everything, and it really do mean everything once they had decided that you are the one for him. Man will love you with no boundaries, no restriction and no matter what, love and care is all he will give even at the starting or beginning of a new relationship, as long as he feels that you will be the one that will stand by his side till the rest of his life. This is mainly because men really do appreciate their loved one and because they are afraid to lose what’s most precious to them, they are more enthusiastic in giving more and more love and concern in order to feel secured.

If by any chances or reasons that a relationship does not work out, men will be slightly more single-minded and harsh in handling broken relationship but it doesn’t mean that the man is not real and true. Men are always true and sincere in relationship, it’s just that they change fast, as they will keep on looking for someone who really does know how to appreciates their love and sincerity, someone who will be grateful with all the efforts and heart that they had pours in, someone who be thankful for every single thing that they had done. Man does not really need your promise or your full commitment in a relationship and still can bear with all kind of your attitudes as long as you show him a little bit of recognition and appreciation.

Another accusation that most guys will need to abide is flirting but the fact is guys don’t really intend to talk sweet when the words are uttered out, it’s just a piece of their heart that they would like their other half to know and even it does sound sweet and unrealistic, it doesn’t mean it’s not the truth that a man is trying to let you aware of. It just sounds fake as the words are commonly used but somehow, sugary words are essentials to add some flavour to maintain or to develop a relationship. To be fair, never look at a guy as holy as god, as good as an angel or as perfect as the one and at the same time never judge a guy based on their appearance or directly penalized a man being a jerk, assuming guys are all terrible and bad.

A guy can give you his whole world or give up even more than the whole world just for you IF you just could show a little bit of appreciation.

A guy can go through every obstacles, no how hard or how tough, even risking his life and still he will hold tight onto you hand IF you could just show a little bit of anticipation.

A guy can forgive whatever you have done, no matter how wrongly you did it, and still he will pamper you like a princess IF you could just show a little bit of reflection.

A guy can replace you in any tough situation, even troubling and getting himself in deep shit just for you being a little more comfortable IF you could just show a little bit of consideration.

A guy can give you endless love, without hoping for the same from you, no matter how many times you broke his heart or throw away his sincerity IF you could just show a little bit of realization.

A guy can do whatever you ask him to, no matter how disgraceful it is or how moronic it will be and still he show you a smile on his face IF you could just show a little bit of recognition.

A guy can still keep on talking to you, spoil you, cherish you and even treat you as the world most precious thing even he has a lot of unsolved and complicated problems within him, even he is in the middle of his hectic and tiring work IF you could just show a little bit of indication.

A guy will never give up on you, holding you even tighter and putting you in front of his own life no matter how tough the future will be and how hard the life would be IF you could just show a little bit of toleration.