MidValley

Always pass by this corner side cafe, they have a very nice comfy red coloured cushion-seating by the side. This can be a really nice place to have tea-break or lunch after long day of shopping. Its Sweet Chat. ♥

And we decide to take a DURIAN MEAL...^^

Lovers of durian can now partake of the fruit in all its aromatic freshness in the cool comfort of a mall. There’s the outlet’s crowd favourite of durian pancake – little nuggets of durian flesh wrapped in a wafer-thin pancake; chilled pulut hitam paste with durian – dollops of boiled mashed pulut hitam and durian flesh served together with coconut milk; and the ever-popular durian cendol.

Delectable desserts that come with the sweet, strong aroma of durians at Sweet Chat’s A Royal Affair promotion for the whole month of May.

We had order the King of the Fruit - Durian made pancake, and we are definitely love it ! The texture is nice and of course, inside there are mixture of durian and cream where it is nice but not too sweet, which make this durian pancake a fantastic dessert after meal.

Durian Pancake RM5.50++

Former was taste bland probably due to pre-make. Though durian and cream were obviously separated, yet both of the ingredients were mixed perfectly upon delivering in mouth. Pancake was reasonably thin and forked easily. Great!

We order durian cendol also...

Durian Cendol RM6++

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Smell of a sweet deal

THERE’S a little open café tucked at one corner of South Court in Mid Valley Megamall that’s serving a right royal feast for this whole month.

Situated just two floors below GSC cinema, Sweet Chat Café is ready to set mouths watering and noses twitching at its offerings of the king of fruits in eight delectable desserts during its A Royal Affair promotion.

New on the menu are durian with such interesting combinations as grass jelly, scones, soya bean jelly, almond cream and bubur cha-cha.

New on the menu are durian with such interesting combinations as grass jelly, scones, soya bean jelly, almond cream and bubur cha-cha.Sweet Chat is a halal café serving desserts and light meals set in the style of Hongkong cafés. Opened in June last year, the outlet is the first of this new sideline for parent company TCRS Restaurants Sdn Bhd, which runs the popular The Chicken Rice Shop franchise.

Two more branches are in the pipeline, targeted at malls in the Klang Valley.

TCRS director Wong Kah Lin says their intention is to make Sweet Chat a third stop for their customers after their home and office; a place they can go to for a bite and chat.

Besides serving desserts (a selection of 26 ‘sweet endings’ both hot – such as almond cream with tong yuen, sago pudding and gandum; and cold – like red ruby, tutti fruiti grass jelly and strawberry volcanics), the café also offers tuna and chicken sandwiches and other light meals.

They include baked veggie with creamy white sauce, topped with cheese and served with nachos; melties which are toasted focaccia bread topped with melted cheese and a choice of barbecued chicken or chicken bologna with nachos; and honey BBQ chicken burger (sumptuous whole cut of honey barbecued chicken chop in a bun with tomatoes, cucumber and lettuce with a side serving of nachos).

There are also a noodle salad that comes with a spicy Turkish dressing and spaghetti with black pepper chicken or spicy oriental minced chicken.

Not to be missed is Sweet Chat’s latest offering of spicy smoked beef pasta which is an adaptation of the Negri Sembilan dish of masak daging salar chilli api. The pasta has the hot tang of chillies with a strong kunyit taste while the smoked beef is meltingly tender.

Customers can enjoy these meals a la carte (from RM9.90++) or opt for the delectable sets (from RM14.90++).

Another must-try is the yam cake (RM5.50++) which is "just the way grandma makes it" with plenty of yam and served with a special chilli sauce.

The café also has a wide choice of drinks, from hot tea by the pot, and coffee like a local latte or Brazilian coffee, to cold thirst quenchers that range from fizzy sparkling juices to shaved ice concoctions and iced Irish coffee. Prices start from RM5.90++.

Sweet Chat can seat 76 people at a stretch and is open daily during mall hours.

Sweet Chat is located at

Lot F-039, First Floor, South Court, Mid Valley Megamall.

For details, call 03-2287 2798.

My Academy

I went to Bukit Bintang with my mum and cousin this noon.

Coz I'm going to take a makeup course for myself...

And the academy name's "DIVA PRODUCTION"

About Us

It is the dream of many women to be seated in front of the mirror and have the expert hands of a make up artist transforms them into someone ‘New’. For others, the dream is to actually be the make up artist. No matter what your dream is, Diva Production caters for all make up requirements.

The academy offers a wide range of services catering for those individuals who wish to pursue careers as make up artists, bridal and special occasion make over, as well as stocking professional make up products which are exclusively available. The studio also caters for the fashion and beauty magazines, TV and film industry.

Diva Production Make up Academy is a training center which enhances student’s knowledge and skills in all aspects of make up artistry. We strive to bring out our student’s natural talent and desire through our extensive training of make up techniques and products.

Make up artistry offers an exciting, creative and rewarding opportunity with varying options. Our courses teach and enhance the necessary skills to pursue the different fields of make up artistry. The program combines theory, demonstrations, hands on practical and field training. It is designed to make the student proficient in beauty and corrective techniques in order to further advance their careers.

Our instructors are professional make up artists who are devoted to achieving excellence in make up artistry

ABOUT OUR PRODUCT RANGE

Diva Product Make-Up Academy believes that you need to be confident when shopping for make up products, as well as understanding the application of the product. Our ongoing commitment is to provide not only make up artists, but also using with professional products, service excellence and sound advice.

Diva Production Make-Up Academy uses exclusively MAC cosmetic, a product ranking high amongst the best available in the world. The quality of the product guarantees even the professional make up artists the most superior finish on the skin for close up camera work on TV, film and fashion photography shoots. The range is vast and diverse and new shades and products capitalizing on the latest trends are introduced throughout the year.

Academy View

My Uniform

Location And Map

Diva Production

57-59 m-floor wisma mode circle,

jalan bukit bintang 55100, kuala lumpur

tel : + 603 - 21411416

info@divaproduction.com

Eyes Injured

Try to camwhore last night, but so "kesian", my left eye injured...

Suddenly RED and BENGKAK (like a stone)

HOLLY SHIT!!!!!

so just get 1 photo that i think its nice...

Oven Oven...Going to have an oven soon...Hahaha...^^

I want an oven, NANANA~

Yea...I want an oven...

I want an oven to make cakes, cupcakes, biscuit and alot of foods....

HaHa...so HAPPY...

Can have an oven...

*Better get an oven like this, i don want those lao giap lao giap want...

SHARP-AX-1200s oven...^^

CheeseCake

ORIGINAL BLUEBERRY


BLUEBERRY


BLUEBERRY CLUSTER

I love cheesecakes and blueberry is my favorite. Cheesecakes are my specialty when it comes to creating desserts. I make super blueberry cheesecake for my own, my family and my friends.

A blueberry cheesecake with a fresh or frozen blueberry glaze.

Cook Time: 1 hour, 10 minutes

Ingredients:

-2 packages (16 ounces total) cream cheese, room temperature
-2 cups cottage cheese
-1 1/2 cups sugar
-4 eggs, slightly beaten
-6 tablespoons cornstarch
-6 tablespoons all-purpose flour
-1 1/2 tablespoons lemon juice
-1 teaspoon vanilla extract
-1/2 cup melted butter or margarine
-2 cups sour cream
-graham cracker crust, below
-blueberry glaze, below

Preparation:

Combine cream cheese and cottage cheese in a large mixing bowl, beat until smooth. Gradually add sugar, beating well. Add eggs and beat until well blended. Add cornstarch, flour, lemon juice, and vanilla, stir well. Add melted butter and sour cream, beating until smooth.

Pour filling into 10-inch springform pan with graham cracker crust (below). (Place a shallow baking pan on the bottom rack of the oven with about an inch of hot water.) Bake cheesecake in center of oven at 325° for about 70 minutes, or until firm around edges. Turn off oven and let cheesecake cool with oven for 2 hours. Remove from oven and cool completely. Remove from pan; refrigerate. When completely chilled, top with blueberry glaze (below).

Graham Cracker Crumb Crust

-1 1/2 cups graham cracker crumbs
-1/4 cup melted butter or margarine
-2 teaspoons sugar

Combine crumbs, melted butter, and sugar; press into the bottom of a 10-inch springform pan.

Blueberry Glaze

-1 cup sugar
-2 tablespoons cornstarch
-1 cup water
-2 cups fresh or frozen blueberries, divided

In a 1-quart saucepan combine sugar and cornstarch. Stir in water. Crush 1/2 cup blueberries; add to sugar and water mixture. Cook over medium heat, stirring constantly, until mixture is thickened and begins to bubble. Continue to boil gently for about 2 minutes, or until blueberry glaze mixture is clear. Cool completely. Arrange remaining blueberries over the top of the cheesecake. Pour cooled blueberry glaze over berries. Keep blueberry cheesecake tightly covered in refrigerator.

DUH~Here is your blueberry filling cheesecake

ENJOY~~~~^^

水晶虾饺

I learn to make "ha gao" from kino mummy last week...

then i make it to my mum and kino the next day...

even not pretty enough, but its taste delicious...^^

Here is the ingrediants to make "ha gao"

主料：澄面500克,生粉50克,虾肉500克,肥猪肉75克,马蹄75克,香菇75克,盐,味精,香油,糖,淀粉,猪油,料酒各适量。

教您水晶虾饺怎么做，如何做水晶虾饺才好吃:

1.水烧开加入澄面，烫八成熟，冷却后加入水许猪油揉匀待用。
2.虾肉、肥肉、马蹄、香菇均切成小丁；虾肉丁上浆过油，滑好控油。
3.把馅料放到一起加入调料待用。
4.面揪成每个20克的剂子，用手搓圆按成圆片，包入30克的馅，包成金恔子形。
5.把半成品放入屉中蒸6分钟，上面刷一层香油即可。

Its easy to do, lets do it for your beloved, sure they will like it...

Mmm...Delicious...

HOPE TO OWN A PINK PSP~

Oh no! The PSP bundles have been fairly attractive so far (especially the Killzone pack), but I guess Sony wanted to make a really hideous one for the girls. Does having P!nk scream at your face make you want a PSP? I think not. Hopefully, someone at Sony just got fired.

Kingplayer also has pictures of the other bundles that are being made available to Europeans, like the Grand Theft Auto: Vice City Stories bundle. (Interestingly, the Pink PSP's Base Pack is a lot more elegant than this celebrity-endorsed version.)

LAUNCH FOR THE PINK PSP

CASES FOR THE PINK PSP

PINK PSP WALLPAPER

PINK PSP THEME

FULL SET FOR PINK SONY PSP SLIM2000

花样男子

This is one both moves and the romantic story...Has the beautiful scenery and the character, also has the pleasant to hear song...Even did not look South Korean play I also looked, that proved this really is a very good play...Feel free to the speech, needs certainly to watch..You wont regret!!!

故事大纲

洗衣店店主的女儿金杉蒂是一所连游泳池都没有的公立高中高二年级的游泳选手，在充满戏剧化的环境中，杉蒂顽强地生活着。

一天，偶然发生了一件事，之后杉蒂被挖到了私立神话高中，那是一所韩国只有1%的孩子才可以就读的贵族学校。

四位帅气的大财阀家少爷F4是这所学校里呼风唤雨的人物，杉蒂的到来仿佛修剪整齐的庭院里冒出的一株杂草，F4指使同学们孤立杉蒂。
面对F4给出的红牌，杉蒂非但没有屈服，反而向F4宣战。

“你是我见到的第二个这样的女孩！”杉蒂敢毫不畏惧地与校园霸王对着干，在世界性的大财团神话集团的继承人具俊杓眼中，杉蒂这点与他的姐姐十分相像，姐姐可是比父母更令他敬畏的“野蛮丫头”。

Story program
Laundry shop owner's daughter Jin Shandi is company swimming pool all no public high school high second year's swimmer, in the fill dramatization environment, the cedar peduncle is living tenaciously.

One day, a heterogenesis matter, the cedar peduncle has been dug afterwards the privately established myth high school, that is the aristocrat school which a South Korea only then 1% child only then may go study.

Four good looks and graceful manners big plutocrat family young master F4 is the character who in this school controls the forces of nature, the cedar peduncle arrival as if prunes a weed which in the neat garden emits, F4 incites schoolmates the isolated cedar peduncle.

The red card gives which facing F4, the cedar peduncle not only has not submitted, instead declares war to F4.

“You are the second such girl who I saw!”The cedar peduncle dares not to dread and the campus overlord treats is doing, has in the handsome scoop eye in the worldwide basis big financial group myth group's successors, but the cedar peduncle this with his elder sister ten phase splitting elephant, the elder sister makes him compared to the parents to awe “the barbaric servant girl”.

My 2nd house...^^

We Came,
We Enjoyed,

We Loved.

This is an open group to all those who visited Redang Pelangi Resort and never regretted a pinch heading towards paradise.

We had a long trip from Kuala Terengganu to Merang jetty,

Waited impatiently for the boat to depart,

Jumped with the boat,

Snorkelled and dived,

Beach volleyed,

Got wasted at night,

Slept over the morning sun,

Slacked along with Mahjong, Congkak and Chor Dai Dee,

and gazed at the Milky Way.

I miss you guys so much

Hope to be back soon....^^

An island that full of ,sunshine,sea,and love

Resort view

Diving

If I could

If I could, I would lie with you and watch you sleep,
And very gently touch your face
Willing myself not to forget; That I might picture you
with heart -wrenching clarity
long after you have gone.
I would inhale the scent of you. Of your hair,
the texture of your skin, and kiss
that old scar above your eye.
Catching my breath as I trace the shape
of those eyes.
Their colour so deep I could drown.
Hidden now, and perfect, under heavy lashes
flickering slightly as you dream. -
Tell me, - what do you see in me?
My fingers exploring on, over cheekbones
wide and high; And back once more
to that wonderful hair.
On, over the bridge of your nose,
down it's length, over the tip to your lips,
- such erotic lips;
Half parted now, your warm regular breath
caressing my fingertips.
I would bend slowly, and hardly touching
run my tongue along each lip
just entering your mouth to savour
the wetness and the warmth of you.
Then I would stroke your chin -
rough at this hour, in the midst of the night,
tracing the squareness of your jaw,
the small cleft there,
the softness of the flesh underneath.
All of my fingertips now
lightly, slightly massaging.
Losing themselves in the nape of your neck,
in a tangle of hair,
gliding, riding over your collar bones
coming to rest in a hollow.
..And I would bend deeper
and fill it with kisses.
If I could.

Words

Do words elude you?
Flee your mind?
Do seasons mix?
Until you find,
No one listens?
No one cares?
People look at you,
with hateful stares?
Life is a circle,
'Round we go!
Chase the words
of seed to sow.

My Lover

The centre of his pleasure
that's where I long to be,
For whatever pleases my lover
will surely pleasure me.

Gazing into my lovers eyes,
they burn with passions fire,
I long to be the star of his dreams,
the object of his desire.

As I kiss and lick my lovers flesh
and partake of sensual delight,
To feel his wrath upon my lips,
How could this not be right?

To be the centre of his pleasure
that's all I want to be,
for if it pleases my lover,
then it surely pleases me.

He Had it All Along

Tortured heart, I was left alone,
Alone to be happy to be me, to be grown
No expectations of anyone any more
With hate in my heart, rot straight to the core
Through this, how he knew better than I
How love conquers hate, on a chance did he try
How carefully it was built, with all my effort
If one tried to climb , would quickly leave hurt
Sweetly and gently, a first shy hello
Built strong over minutes and hours from go
Try not to let it, please make it stop
The feeling inside starts out cool ends up hot
It crumbled so quickly as if made of sand
Sifted right through the fingers on his hand
As the sand ran through, whats there in his Palm?
My heart, my soul, was there all along

Breaking Into Pieces

Falling apart
Broken in two...
Or maybe a million,
Because of you

Torn apart
Tears falling like rain
Hurting so much
Never again!

I gave you my love
I gave you my heart,
And what did you do?
You tore it apart.

Saying your sorry
You walked away,
Leaving me crying
And hurting this way.

And now there is silence
No more you....
And my heart breaks
At my loss of you.

I have fallen apart
My heart in tatters
Broken into pieces
Not that it matters.

You withdrew away
You left me to cry
And I will never know
The reason why.

I loved you so much
You will never know,
How I broke into pieces
And watched you go…

I Do.

Do you ever wonder
if I'm still in love with you?
When nothing in your world is right,
is it me your heart turns to?

Have you ever searched for me
among the stars at night?
Did you wish upon the brightest one,
a wish to hold me tight?

Have you ever called my name,
so certain that I could hear?
When gentle breezes caress you,
can you feel that I am near?

Do you ever wonder,
if I feel the same way too?
Rest your wearied mind, my love,
the answer is, I DO

By The Sea Shore

Did you feel the sun's fingers caress your face,
As you strolled the ocean froth covered sea shore?
It was merely the warmth of a slow forming smile,
As I awoke from a summer dream about you.

Did you feel the ocean breeze gently brush your hair,
As you bent down to pick up the sea shells at your feet?
It was merely a single sigh escaping from my lips,
As I drank in the memory of a fleeting moment.

Did you hear the frantic cries of lonesome sea gulls,
As you searched the endless horizon for signs of life?
It was merley the sound of my desolate voice,
As I slowly whispered your name to myself.

Did you taste the sting of the ocean's salty spray,
As you danced among the white-capped waves?
It was merely the tears of my wounded heart,
As I sensed the sea of distance separating us.

Did you ever think?

Did you ever think?

Did you ever think that you would get this far?

Did you ever think that you would be standing where you are?

Did you ever think she would be looking straight at you?

And in her eyes you'd see all the wholesome things in you?

Did you ever think that you could feel this way?

About someone with whom you want to spend every single day

Did you ever think you would have the strength to cry?

That you would look at such an angel and tears would come to your eyes?

Did you ever think that you could feel the way you do?

About someone, you know whose feelings are so true.

Did you ever think?

For JASON SIA...

When we first met,
I dint really like you,
I thought you were fierce,
But when i got to know you better,
all of a sudden things changed,
We became friends,
and its almost stayed that way,
But we sometimes fought,
we sometimes argued,
I really hated that.
Days went on,
our friendship got back together.
Hopefully now on we wont argue or fight,
Stay friends ya...

FRIENDS FOREVER
NO MATTER WHAT!!!

A very very Sweet Song...From Da Mouth

永远在身边

Baby boy
永遠永遠手牽手 一步兩步一起走
永遠永遠要記得 我們要一起生活
不管晴天的時候 不管下雨的時候
不放開手到永久 我們要一起生活

眼淚她為你流過 也為自己掉過
對於你們的愛 她總是抱著堅強的笑容
錯過那些時間 謝謝她的守候
是時候緊緊牽她的手 帶她到你的城堡裡

最近還好嗎 想念的心開不了口
枯想著妳有沒有好好過 擔心著妳每天生活
你好嗎最近如何 照顧身體工作加油
我一個人也會勇敢好好過 不讓你擔心多一秒

想念著 每天每秒我們故事 每天每秒說好的事
兩個人一起散步 是最浪漫的事
你是我的天使 給我力量能夠堅持

那些關心問候 翅膀一樣的雙手 是我最幸福的所有
心裡面有你建的角落 脆弱時我能夠躲一躲
妳愛我像翅膀一樣溫柔的手 我要抱著妳不要再錯過
你的愛是最藍那片天空 cuz baby girl I'm coming back home

REPEAT *

幸福少了妳在身邊不會完整
人潮中朝你走來那張可愛微笑的臉孔
這份愛 不是悸動 守護一輩子的感動
這段路踏著幸福的每一步一起牽著手

心疼妳會睡不好 總是縮在床的一角
我要回來給妳依靠 哄妳看妳笑著睡著
照片裡你的微笑 我們甜蜜得打鬧
好希望微風把思念 代替我親吻你嘴角

想念著 每天每秒我們故事 每天每秒說好的事
約定好去看的風景 愛譜成了詩
你就是我的天使 給我力量能夠堅持

陽光燦爛午後 我又在街上走 你的影子不再寂寞
想到你的身邊到不了 像個路人般看熱鬧
經過那個屬於我們的轉角 走過兩個人曾經逛的街
那些店還有熟悉的畫面 oh baby girl I'm coming back home

REPEAT *

沒有辦法想像 那畫面
一個孤獨的背影走在 小公園
一顆心 需要暖 一雙手 需要牽
故事要有美好結局 需要兩雙手來寫

永遠 不是只出現在童話裡的夢
在身邊 眼淚加了蜜糖甜
這句點 要完美畫在無名指上
承諾的開始 戀人們 要一起珍藏

The Science of Attraction

Have you ever been flooded with feelings at the mere sight of a certain someone or inexplicably drawn to a stranger? It’s called chemistry. The term was coined ages ago, but recently, researchers are giving it a more scientific explanation. Below, you will find out what professionals say it takes for two people to have "chemistry" and we will tell you how to harness nature's matchmaker to help you in your quest for love.

To begin with, chemistry is activated by first impression attraction. That attraction is shaped by social influence, individual perspective, and human nature. Each society has a set of accepted guidelines for what is attractive. Beyond that, each sub-culture of people, grouped by common criteria like location, age, class, race, religion, workforce, etc. has its own set of “norms” as well. Your family and the media are two of the most impactful influences on your perspective. You begin to judge yourself and others through lenses created by these societal forces, however accurate or distorted they may be. Most of the world’s cultures have norms quite different than those in America. A good example is the Miss United Kingdom pageant compared to similar contests in the US. The UK contestants’ bodies were more like the average American twenty-something women than the rail-thin silhouettes you are likely to see in American pageants. What we call a little extra baggage, they see as fit and beautiful. The farther away we get from Western society, the more evident this difference is.

To further explain initial attraction as major factor in chemistry, we must also look at the way you see yourself. Your view of your own sex appeal is a major contributor to who you are attracted to. Research proves that people are romantically attracted to those they consider to be on their same level of physical attractiveness. If your internal measuring tape puts your prospective love interest on an equal playing field with yourself, it gives your brain the go ahead to pursue intimacy. If someone is struggling with their self-image, the internal conflict will skew their judgement of who is or isn't on par.

Physical attractiveness is, in part, determined by the human urge to breed. Women are intuitively attracted to men with physical features that suggest a level of testosterone ideal for procreation. They include a prominent jaw, chin, and brow, high forehead, broad shoulders, and a V-shaped torso. Both men and women are instinctively attracted to healthy looking skin because it implies good overall health.

The lack of testosterone in women develops full lips, big eyes, and symmetrical body types, all positive signs of fertility. Men are subconsciously attracted to substantial waist-to-hip ratios, or “Beyonce booties,” because the shape indicates a healthy reproductive system. The hips-to-waist rule crosses every cultural boundary, but make no mistake, it is the ratio rather than the size that attracts men.

The hormones that determine your body type are not the only signals your body is conveying to prospective lovers. Our bodies release “scents” that are detected subconsciously by other people. You might have heard these referred to as pheromones, or pheromone-like substances, because they work just like the pheromones that have been proven to play a large role in animals’ mate selection. These unique DNA “scents” tell the details of one’s MHC, or Major Histocompatibility Complex, the gene family that tells all about your immune system. The odorless scents are believed to be breathed in by others, received by the vomeronasal gland, or VNO, and sent to the sexual part of the brain. Erik Hozzle, founder of Scientificmatch.com called them “personal odorless fingerprints.”

Hormones are at the root of the receiving person’s interpretation as well. Their response varies by gender, but is also individual. Depending on the other person’s unique chemical make-up, they will be subconsciously attracted to a person sexually, non-sexually, or not at all. We are attracted to people with differing immune systems and DNA than our own. Experts say this is nature’s way of discouraging incest. During a woman’s especially fertile times, she is the most sensitive to male pheromones, especially those men with differing immune systems. During pregnancy, she is more attracted to people whose chemical make-ups are most like her own (other women and family members) than her mate. Some say that hormone birth controls have the potential to alter who you are attracted to as well, so watch out! If this is true, your guy may not look so great once you get on the pill!

Scienficmatch.com is the next step in technology-based matchmaking. They identify appropriate mates for you by collating DNA samples. They claim that mate selection through chemical comparison is likely to yield more satisfying sex lives, including higher rates of female orgasms, lower rates of infidelity, and increased fertility! Founder Erik Hozzle assured me that his service operates under the strictest confidentiality. The Today Show recently featured a story on Hozzle and his company. The reporter had her DNA tested and Scientificmatch.com didn’t come up with any matches. I think that Scientificmatch.com taking the high road when they could have easily been dishonest and matched her to someone for good PR speaks wonders about the company’s ethics.

Even though the company showed honest business practice, they may be missing the full picture. The Today Show furthered their investigation by having three couples who were at various stages in their relationships (all claiming to be incredibly happy) take the DNA test to assess their compatibility. One couple tested 100% compatible, while the other two were 67%. The female in the couple who tested to be the most likely to succeed said, “I think you just saved our relationship.” That just goes to prove that the scientific “chemistry” is only one component of the chemistry equation.

There are many pieces to the puzzle that seem unexplainable, like love at first sight or that magnetism that erupts between strangers. Bob Morgan, former psychology professor and current director of ADAPT, a counseling center specializing in addiction recovery, says that the initial feelings of lust or chemistry are ultimately about propagation of the species, so it makes sense that they are fleeting. They serve their biological purpose and dissipate when they are no longer needed. In order for a relationship to be both fulfilling and stable, the lust must be replaced with love. Morgan says that being in a relationship is the “normal state of being” for humans and that it is our natural drive to seek that connection; attraction exists as a part of our innate need to love and be loved. He quotes Father Joseph Martin saying, “People are most human in the context of a relationship.”

A better indicator of relationship longevity according to Morgan is emotional maturity. How well someone knows and accepts themselves is a direct gauge for what they will bring into a relationship. William Menninger, MD, co-founder of The Menninger Clinic, wrote these criteria for emotional maturity:

• The ability to deal constructively with reality
• The capacity to adapt to change
• A relative freedom from symptoms that are produced by tensions and anxieties
• The capacity to find more satisfaction in giving than receiving
• The capacity to relate to other people in a consistent manner with mutual satisfaction and helpfulness
• The capacity to sublimate, or to direct one’s instinctive hostile energy into creative, constructive outlets
• The capacity to love

Morgan’s standpoint is that each person’s situation is distinctive according to where they are on their life journey, how much wisdom they have acquired, and how emotionally mature they are. These things change how much each aspect of attraction plays a part in a person's mate selection and relationship dynamics.

Another point of view comes from Virginia Satir, world renowned and honored therapist, teacher, author, and creator of counseling methods used around the globe. She says that people “marry to get,” simple as that. When opposites attract, people detect attributes that they admire, ones lacking in themselves, and subconsciously envision their collective traits as completion of their best selves. According to Satir’s perspective, mate selection has little to do with compatibility and much to do with the psychological process of attraction.

Satir explains why opposites attract, but what keeps them together? When the fireworks fade, they have no common interests to fall back on. They must cling to what is deep inside to be successful. Bob Morgan says he and his wife are this way. They share core values, but are quite contradictory to each other in every other way. Given a pair of choices, the two will choose opposites nearly every time without knowing what the other chose. Having different interests and passions in life could easily be a growing wedge between them, but their love supersedes their differences. Bob’s favorite definition of love reads, “When your needs are as important as my needs.” This kind of love is more powerful than lust, attraction, common interests, animal instincts, social influence, and even self-esteem. When you are capable of this kind of love, you may find it with someone like you or unlike you in biology or psychology. There are plenty of rules in chemistry, but there are no rules when it comes to love.

Strive to be an emotionally mature person, ready to give and accept love. Challenge yourself to break out of your relationship paradigm. Get to know yourself first, and when you're secure with who you are and what you see in the mirror, you will be able to accept a partner in the same way. A healthy lifestyle where you are happy with yourself affects your psyche and hormones, making you attractive to others. The more aware we are of that, the easier it should be to allow the “magic” to happen naturally.

Romantic Text Messages

Showing your feelings has never been easier since the advent of the text message. Anytime or anywhere you can instantly shoot off a message across the globe to the one you love, letting them know they are on your mind. Unfortunately, it isn't always easy coming up with witty romantic words of love. So, to help ease your burden, we've come up with a whole host of romantic messages that will set your love's heart atwitter with delight. If you have a great message that isn't included here, let us know and we'll include it in our list! Happy Texting!

• Let these words not only touch your eyes, let them travel through your soul, and let them rest in your heart as you rest in mine…I love you.
  
• You're still the one…
  
• Words alone will never be able to express the depth of my love for you.
  
• In case you didn't know, I'll be loving you always and forever!!
  
• Just when I thought it couldn't get better, you prove me wrong! I love you!
  
• Falling in love with you was the easiest thing I've done in my life.
  
• Hand in hand and heart to heart my love for you shall never part.
  
• Even though we are apart, my love you will never part.
  
• I'll love the sun for days, the moon for nights, and YOU for forever.
  
• Loving you makes my heart explode with happiness.
  
• Rains fall, winds blow, the sun shines... it all comes naturally, just like loving you.
  
• Simply said... I love you...
  
• Being with you is like having every single one of my wishes come true.
  
• Loving you has been the best thing to ever happen to me!
  
• Just had to let you know... you're the best! I love you!
  
• There is no long distance about love; it always finds a way to bring hearts together, no matter how many miles are between them.
  
• You are the sun in my day, the wind in my sky, the waves in my ocean, and the beat in my heart.
  
• I wish I was there to hold you tight instead of just send this loving, "Good Night."
  
• Thank you for being the one who calms all my inner fears.
  
• Your love is all I'll ever need.

Getting What You Want In Bed

Don’t let another night go by wishing and hoping that your man would get it right. Pleasing a woman takes knowledge and understanding. More than likely, your man would give anything to rock your world, he just doesn’t know how. Teach him how to please you by following our super sexy lesson plans. No need to share your plan with him; it will be our little secret.

You are about to embark on a serious training project and like any endeavor of this sort, it requires a good plan. One thing to keep in mind throughout the process is that you are training a man, and it calls for a bit more finesse than training say, a child, a dog, or an athlete. The best way to train him is to never let on that there is anything wrong. Instead, he should believe that you are expanding the adventure of your already wonderful lovemaking. In addition, secret planning will enable you to implement one of the most useful pieces of man-training: turning the neck. You have heard the metaphor that the man may be the head of the house, but it is the woman, as the neck, that turns the head in the direction she desires.

Smart women have figured out that if you allow a man to think that he came up with his ideas all on his own, he will be much more committed to following through with them. One of the key differences between a man and a woman is his need to be appreciated as a mastermind, a fixer, and a great lover. He actually needs that confirmation to retain his pride as a man. Women don’t need the ego confirmation like a man does. They need to be cherished, adored and respected. Play your womanly hand in this game of love and greatly increase both your chances of winning.

To begin training your husband, you will need to choose which lesson you would like to start with. You don’t want to overwhelm him with too much at the same time; it is too easy to slip up and make him feel bad about himself. You might choose to work on foreplay first, or it might be what he does or doesn’t do during sex, or maybe it is the lack of adventure in your sex life that you choose to tackle first. The next step is to choose your angle. Here are a few options:

• Take a love quiz like this one or this one together. It will open up conversation about what things you always wanted to try, what things really turn you on, etc.
  
  
• Open up a conversation by asking him about his desires first. Ask him what he really likes, what he would like more of, and what he’s always wanted to try. The conversation should then turn to what you really like, what you want more of, and what you’ve always wanted to try.
  
  
• Go out to dinner and have a few drinks. Then, as a “spur of the moment idea,” share your sensual wish lists with each other, writing down things you both hope to experience on cocktail napkins so you can look at them again the next day.
  
  
• Tell him what you want him to do in the heat of the moment. The closer a man is to climax, the more appeasing he is, so take the opportunity when he is hot and ready to tell him something you wish he would do. Say it in a super sexy way and refrain from criticizing him in any way. Say something like, “Oh baby, you feel so good… I want you to _____.”
  
  
• Mention something you’d like to experience when the two of you are doing something totally non-sexual, taking him by surprise with your non-shalant attitude. Imagine driving home from the grocery store and mentioning out of the blue that you have been imagining what it would be like to do it on the kitchen counter or wondering what it would be like to buy a sex toy together. That leaves it in his court, and odds are that you’ll have that fantasy come true before the week is out.
  
  
• Introduce your desires and fantasies by construing a little fib, “A friend told me a story today at work. You wouldn’t believe what she tried with her husband last night…” or “I stumbled on an article about something interesting today and it made me so hot, imaging us doing it. It was all about ____” or “I had the hottest dream about you last night. You were _____.”
  
  
• Set up a role play rendezvous where you are in charge. You could be a sex instructor or dominatrix. That way, you can tell him what you want him to do and he will love the idea of being “schooled” by a hot sex master!
  
  
• Challenge him. Bring out his competitive nature with a sexy challenge. One idea, if you are sick of the hum drum five minute lay before bed, is to tell him that you will have sex with him anywhere, anytime, as long as it is not on your bed. Another idea is to make a game with him, a challenge of who can take the reigns and create the hottest sexual encounter. You each make a short list of things you want and swap lists. Include four or so things that you like that he does already and four more things that you want him to do. Don’t tell him to do the same, though. Let him put whatever he wants on his list, so he doesn’t feel like this is a project to make him better in bed, but just a fun encounter to have. Roll dice to see who gets the first night and have a blast playing out your challenge and see whose rendezvous works out best!
  

Whichever angle you choose, just make sure that you encourage him to lead you just as much as you lead him. He needs to feel like an equal participant in pleasing you, and after he’s trained, you won’t have to try! In addition, don’t treat every opportunity as a training exercise. Let the lessons go once in a while. The goal is to make him a better lover without damaging his self-esteem. After all, it is a well-known fact that confidence is the most important element to attraction. If you knock down his self-esteem, you won’t ever turn him into the perfect love machine.

You don’t always need an angle. Definitely shake things up a bit. Remember that you are choosing one lesson at a time and you should try different approaches often so that he doesn’t begin to feel like his manhood is being challenged. Your training will go a whole lot smoother if he just sees you as being extra adventurous, not out to change his ways. Some secrets are worth keeping…

Find sexy ways to let him know what you want from him.

• Talk to him sweetly, using your bedroom voice. Whisper what you want in his ear, but do it kindly. For example, if he is pounding you like a jack rabbit, tell him that you want to “feel him more, slowly.”
  
  
• Give him physical clues to what you would like. For example, if you want him to handle your breasts more, put them right in his face. Men can’t help but grab onto bouncing boobies.
  
  
• If you want him to alter the way he does something, try doing it to him first. It won’t take long for him to get the hint that you are giving him. If that alone doesn’t get him doing what you want, show him how you like it by guiding him. Move his hands or body and tell him, “Like this.” Telling him how you like it while it’s happening instead of criticizing afterword makes it more of an erotic experience than a “schooling.”
  

You need to teach your guy what you like. Encouraging him when he’s doing it right is the most effective training method. It is called positive reinforcement and it is the essence of man-training. During love-making is the perfect opportunity for it because it is the time when he is most receptive. Memorize these tips like the back of your hand and use them every chance you get through the training process and after. A man can never get enough positive reinforcement.

• Let your inhibitions go and your vocals loose. The tiniest inkling to let out a moan or tell him “yes” and you should let it out. Scream if you feel like it, men love it.
  
  
• Don’t over-reward. Make your reaction in direct ratio to the amount of pleasure he is giving you. Most of this will come naturally of course, but it doesn’t hurt to keep it in mind while you are on the mission to train.
  
  
• Tell him that you really like what he’s doing and that you want to try it in a different position, in a different room, slower, faster, or whatever you want. The key part is to reinforce that you like what he is doing already and that you want more.
  
  
• If he really knocks your socks off, let him know by returning the favor. Blow his mind by doing something you know he loves. It may sound a bit impersonal, but a man’s mind works that way sometimes. This sort of reward system, if done properly, buries in his subconscious and he will associate doing what you like with getting what he likes.

The last stage of each lesson should be feedback. Voice a reaction to your lovemaking session, but do it with finesse. Use the tips below to close each chapter of training in such a way that his ego is in tact and you are that much closer to having the best sex of your life.

• It doesn’t have to be a formal discussion. In fact, the more casual your feedback is, the more he receptive he will be. For example, you could tell him, “You know, honey, I loved it when you ____ and I was thinking that next time, we could ____” and gently tell him what it is that you want from him.
  
  
• Be open and willing to talk about your desires with him, but make sure you are inquiring about his desires just as much.
  
  
• Don’t always have suggestions. Give him a lot of encouragement by telling him how hot the sex was, how much you keep thinking about him touching you, etc. Again, don’t pretend to feel that way if you don’t, but there are surely things you could pick out of every experience to praise him for. He needs compliments just as much as you do.
  
  
• Once in a while, it’s ok to give him a little sting. If he is doing something that drives you nuts, you may have to come right out and say it. Just make sure that when you do, he feels very loved and assured before and after. You don’t want to tack a sting onto a lesson already in progress. Let things ride for a while, then break the news, and then give him a while to get over the blast before resuming your lessons.

Be patient with your lover. Take one lesson at a time and give him a chance to master it before moving onto the next one. He wants to be the ultimate lover just as much as you want him to be.